Thank you all for the replies. While things have taken an interesting turn, I'm having more problems, and they just don't make sense.
Following my original post, I was away for about a week. When I got home I went to install the isolator I ordered http://www.etrailer.com/Accessories-and-Parts/Tow-Ready/TR118665.html?feed=npn&gclid=CLGQiJvOhLwCFWhnOgodmGwAuw . When I popped my hood, I looked in the area that darrel's pictures showed, and found that I had two isolators under the hood. I still have the manual switch with the aftermarket heavy duty cable as in my original post, and I also have what appears to be the original isolator and cable installed, just at Darrel's pics showed. I had a three pole isolator mounted to the chassis with 10g cable coming off of each side of the isolator, and the center pole had a wire going to the wiper motor.
Taking a look at this already installed (original?) isolator and cables, I quickly realized that the cable that should go from the isolator to the truck battery positive was connected from the isolator to the truck negative terminal. I first removed this cable from the battery. I then metered, and I found that the cable on the coach side is still wired to the coach battery (12.3 no shore power and engine off). I then went on to check both sides of the isolator, and when both sides of the isolator were connected, I had the same voltage on both sides of the isolator regardless of whether or not the ignition was on. When I metered the third pole (wiper connection on the isolator) I got no voltage when the ignition was off, and I got over 14v when ignition was running. So I installed my new isolator, which I linked earlier, and I got the exact same readings in all situations.
I am baffled and becoming very frustrated. This should be very simple. Are all three isolators bad..including the new one? Could I be metering wrong? I have been measuring the hots with my ground on various locations, and I have gotten the same readings on both sides of the isolators, regardless of the truck running or not, shore power plugged in, or nothing plugged in. The voltage is passing through in both directions regardless of anything.
What now?